Glenda Gibbs, Integrative Coaching & Counseling, Transformational Teacher, Facilitator of "The Secret"

Ponderings...

Does this sound familiar? “I think I feel ____.” This is impossible. There

are facts and feelings. We can’t think

how we feel. Until I learned this, I

was really good at thinking how I felt or so I thought.

Over time and many experiences, I developed a shell to protect me

from the pains of the yesterdays. As it

grew denser – I lost

connectedness with my essence – my energy and focus went to

keeping that shell in tact

between me and others. I wouldn’t let anyone

get that close. The shell acted as my shield to survive.

I remember a friend who reads palms shared that my head and my

heart weren’t connected and I’d disagree. I

knew I was sensitive and

had feelings.

Buttons being pushed are a direct link to unfinished issues that are

pain. We can rationalize it, and attempt to

fix the situation externally

with counseling or other mind filling tools and the pain may diffuse a bit,

however in

the background that pain continues to influence our choices

and decisions.

Last weeks Ponderings I wrote about what you don’t own owns you.

Here’s an example of this thinking/feeling

concept in action:

Recently I recognized that I had a HOT button around chronic TV

watching. Ok, so here’s where my head

intellectual shell kicked in: I

can rationalize that my children’s father along with my dad watched it,

thus I felt

ignored. I can also add that I’m very active and prefer doing

things rather than sitting for hours being a TV

expert. While all of this

has merit, I continued to feel emotionally charged.

With further exploring the source of my discontent, I realized it provokes

me to see someone sitting while I’m

obsessed with working and if I

dare take time off, I’d consider myself to be lazy and if I did, I’d prove

mother right – anyone who sits on their hinny and watches hours of

is worthless. Oh boy, the feelings

appeared and I purged. This was

a bingo.

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.AA Pushed Button

Glenda Gibbs, Integrative Coach