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Glenda Gibbs, Integrative Coach |
Most of us find it real easy to look for what’s wrong. It’s a way of looking at things that we think is ‘normal’ patterned to us by family, friends, our community and our society. We can find all the wrong there is in our jobs, relationships, our government, our kids, and our neighbors, even ourselves.
eagle eye, we can zoom right in and flesh out what’s wrong. We even believe the problem isn’t ours, it’s theirs. We also criticize and judge. We have our beliefs of what they ‘should do’ to meet our idea of ‘what’s right’. Justifying our position, we’re able to blame others for not meeting our personal needs. Case in point: I know of a man who is adamant regarding Mexican’s working in his craft. He says the reason he doesn’t have steady work is because they (the Mexican’s) work for less money and he’s very angry that he’s being cheated. To say the least he’s opposed to viewing this any other way. In his sharing he escalates and blames them for him not having enough money to live on and being broke. He really believes he’s right. There isn’t one good thing he could find to say about his boss who hires them, the guys’ work – absolutely nothing. While he’s gathered a ton of experiences to justify his beliefs, he’s unwilling to be responsible or accountable for looking at the experience from a different perspective. His belief has him stuck. By continuing to find and believe what’s wrong outside of him self, he can avoid addressing his issues. He gets to be right about being disappointed and upset. The interesting thing to add to this, he finds people to bitch to and they listen, subsequently they share a lot of the same philosophies in life. Many years ago, a colleague and I went on a trip to ‘scan’ a business to determine the strengths and ‘what was wrong’ – mission accomplished. I returned having a lop-sided report to submit. I found all that was wrong and very little that was right. When my report was compared to my colleague’s – his report was more about what was right – yes, his report included valid ‘wrong’ things however they weren’t the focus or the quantity as mine. His report earned merit. Mine earned me a great learning lesson. When we start looking for what’s right we can turn anything around. We look for gift, the lesson, and the good in every situation and in every person.
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