Glenda Gibbs, Integrative Coaching & Counseling, Transformational Teacher, Facilitator of "The Secret"

It’s true! I am a blonde and I pay good money to keep it that way!

I grew up in an atmosphere where I was 'in charge' taking care of my

siblings, doing the chores, indoors and

out. It was serious business. I

can remember hearing my folks telling me that the work wouldn’t get

done if I

was horsing around. Knowing that work was an absolute priority

there was the proverbial carrot dangling:

when my work was complete I’

d get to play. Playing never occurred much and goofing around caused

problems and mistakes. Laughing and having fun was considered to be

playing and there wasn’t the time for

that.

Now my parents did the absolute best they knew how to do with a herd

of children, so just know I'm over

blaming them.

Throughout my life I would put myself in situations where I would be in

charge and I'd continue to be serious.

Very little time to play, work would

always take priority. And life wasn't fun; in fact I became frustrated and

resentful. Life sucked.

I began asking myself if I wanted to continue with the same behaviors as

I had learned from the many years of

training or did I want to make some

new decisions for me -- from me as an adult?

As I began to 'free' up my diligent beliefs of work and seriousness, I

started to realize that I was a

perfectionist. It was a battle. Mistakes

really appeared and my inclination was to kick into overdrive busying

myself with more work. Maybe I could fix my mistakes. This realization --

that I wasn't perfect was absolutely

horrifying. My world was crumbling.

I was my own worst enemy. Being my best friend was an unheard

concept and as far from reality to me as

Jupiter is to you.

“You should, if only, why, etc.,” were running rapid in my mind. That inner

dialogue trying to run the show had to

be disposed of.

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.Ponderings ...

.AIt's true! I am blonde ...

Glenda Gibbs, Integrative Coach