and owning the times that you’ve demonstrated the very things you’ve been denying and protecting. Here’s an example: Someone accuses me of not being trustworthy. I get angry and I argue my honor. I blame them for accusing me. After all, I put in an extra mile to demonstrate my trustworthiness. Trustworthiness isn’t the bandit. My reaction is. My reaction is hiding/protecting a wound. Moving within my mind to a place where I admit I’ve demonstrated behaviors where I was ruthless and dishonest and couldn’t stand those parts of myself, my ego came to my rescue. My ego went to work building walls to protect me from that pain, both internal and external. When the pain became too much I sought relief. For me, it’s digging in and searching for that part of myself I’ve buried or pretended to be gone. Once I discover what I’ve been protecting, I feel the feelings of then and give myself comfort, compassion and love. Too often we judge ourselves unmercifully and there is no way we can accept our humanness. Now, today as I ‘own’ what’s ‘owned’ me for all these years I’m look for the gold. Finding the gold includes the things I’ve learned from the experience, the strengths I’ve developed and my blessings. I also realize I wouldn’t be who I am without this experience. Embracing this aspect of my self disarms the hot button. This is freedom. Freedom is a choice. So is a quality of life. May your week be filled with many freeing moments. Smiles to you! Glenda |
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.AWhat you don't own, owns you |